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What Is A Death Cafe?
We all die. And yet death can be a very difficult topic to talk about. Death Cafes provide a chance to be together to eat cake and talk about death.
Why a Death Café? We know that talking about death to the point that we normalize it as a part of life helps reduce anxiety about our own death and the death of loved ones – and helps us live more fully. These relaxed, interesting conversations on death are fluid; you may choose to attend any of our monthly sessions. UUCCI members Cate Hyatt and Sandy McCoy will serve as gentle guides to keep the conversation flowing and to honor all persons’ own views and confidentiality.
Helpful Resources
If you waould like to learn more about Death Cafes, final arrangements, or memorial planning, click on any of the links below!
Death Cafe Info
Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts
By Oliver Burkeman
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Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals
By Oliver Burkeman
When Breath Becomes Air
by Paul Kalanithi, Abraham Verghese (Foreword by)
Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters
in the End
by Atul Gawande by GuideGuru Publishing
So Grows the Tree: Creating an Ethica Will, The legacy of our bleifes, and values, life
lessons and hopes for the future.
by Jo Kline Cebuhar, J.D.
Bye Bye I Love you: he Story of ur first and Last Words, 2025
by Michael Erard
The Giving Tree
by Shel Silversteen,
Final Gifts: Understanding the Special Awareness, needs an communications of the Dying
by Maggie Callanan; Patricia Kelley
Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make
Time for What Counts
By Oliver Burkeman
Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals
By Oliver Burkeman
Movies / Videos About Death
Griefwalker, 2008 + Very powerful
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How to Die in Oregon, 2011
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Dying Wish, 2008
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How I mad Friends wto Reality, 2018
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When My Time Comes 2021
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Jack Has A Plan, 2022
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Ecstatic Experience, 2023
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After Death, 2023
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I love you, Now Die, 2019
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End Game, 2018
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Into the Abyss, 2011
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Extremis, 2016
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Alternate Endings
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Life Itself, 2014
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The Last Ecstatic Days: documentary about a young man with brain cancer, and the hospice doctor who gives up everything to honor his dying wish 2023
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Articles About Death
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I Teach Memoir Writing. Don’t Outsource Your Life Story to A.I.
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It’s My Right to die, NT Times 1.7.2025Jan Sturmann
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Steve LederThe Beauty of What Remains: How our Greatest Fear Becomes our Greatest Gifthttps://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2024/11/meditations-for-mortals-four-thousand-weeks-review/679955/
Creating A Will
Creating An Obituary
Organizations
Final Exit Network (FEN)
Final Exit Network (FEN) is a network of dedicated professionals and caring, trained volunteers
who support mentally competent adults as they navigate their end-of-life journey. Established in
2004, FEN seeks to educate qualified individuals in practical, peaceful ways to end their lives,
offer a compassionate bedside presence and defend a person’s right to choose. For more
information, go to www.finalexitnetwork.org.
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UUCCI has purchased something special for you – Five Wishes Online. It may be one of the best gifts you’ll ever receive because it can bring peace of mind to you, your family and all those who love you.
Imagine there comes a time when you are unable to make your own medical decisions. It could be the result of a serious illness or an accident. Who would make decisions on your behalf? What would they decide? Would your loved ones disagree about what you would have wanted?
Five Wishes Online is an easy way for you to plan ahead of a health crisis. It is a legally valid document that tells your family and healthcare providers what is most important to you in case of a serious illness. Five Wishes is helpful for all adults, everyone over age 18. It is similar to a living will or advance directive. Five Wishes is better than these typical documents because it deals with all a person’s needs – the medical and legal, and also the personal , family and spiritual. These are the things people say matter the most.
Using this Five Wishes Online, provided by UUCCI, you can take a few simple steps to ensure that your wishes are known and respected. There is no additional cost to pay. You just need to fill out the document!
What you need to know to access your Five Wishes Online document:
1) Create your document at https://fivewishes.org/login/ by using your username and
password. Your username and password are below:
User Name: camhart@indiana.edu
Password: fl=0[6lQ
2) Your Five Wishes Online document will be available for use for one year. Within that time you can make as many changes to the document as you like.
3) You can print the document and fill it out by hand. Or you can go through each of the screens, type in your answers, and print a document that is ready for your signature.
4) Choose from 27 different languages to print your Five Wishes document. Be sure it is appropriately signed, dated and witnessed.
5) Make copies of your Five Wishes document. Give a copy to your doctor. Talk about it with your family and close friends. Don’t keep it a secret. Make sure those close to you know that you’ve completed Five Wishes and where the document is located.
We all want to take good care of the people who we love. It’s hard to do the right thing without clear instructions. Completing Five Wishes is a gift to your family, friends and your doctor because it keeps them out of the difficult position of having to guess what kind of treatment you want or don’t want. Second-guessing, guilty feelings and family disagreements are avoided when everybody is on the same page. If you have questions, please contact us at 1-888-594-7437.​​​​